make the first move

Mar 3, 2011

Get Off the Sideline and Play the Dating Game

Whether it was guy friends that I had mad crushes on or boys I was kissing and actually wanted it to be more, I found it so much easier to hope that they liked me. I would sit around and wait for that romantic movie moment where they blurt out their feelings in a fumbling Micael Cera-esque fashion, making sure to include an adorable listing of “all the things they loved about me” that included the perfect mix of qualities that make me feel smart, funny and pretty.

Feb 16, 2011

Ask a Dude: Ding Dong Ditched

Dear Dude, I've got a bit of a dilemma on my hands. I've never had a boyfriend. I've come close, but no guy ever wanted to be more than a fling or something other than a friend. I have been perpetually pushed into the friend zone. Something of a specialty of mine. I suppose in compliment to me, most guys I've hooked up with in the past have always wanted to maintain an active friendship with me and are usually making the bigger effort. All the while making it clear they want nothing else.

Dec 15, 2010

Ask A Dude: How Do I Handle a Shy Guy?

Hi Dude, I just wanted to know what your thoughts are on the whole 'He's Just Not That Into You' phenomenon. I should start by saying that I've read the book, and a lot of what it says makes sense in theory... But, here's the thing: There is this guy at work that I've only bumped into like 3 or 4 times, but he's really cute and we seem to have fun talking to each other.

Single. And Liking a Boy

I have never understood how some girls get so nervous around boys they're crushing on. I'd never experienced it personally... until not. And wow, I really don't like this feeling!

Aug 27, 2010

Ask a Dude: Is He Shy or Not Into Me?

Dude, I have this co-worker that we have been close friends for about 3 years. We live in different areas and are in different offices for the same company. Anyway, about 6 months ago we started flirting and he said that he has always liked me and been attracted to me, stated that he was shy and that it was why he never said anything before...

Jul 28, 2010

From Ice to Nice: 6 Ways to Be More Approachable in Your Dating Life

When I was in high school one of my friends was the most sought-after girl in school. I had other friends that were prettier, smarter and nicer but boys were crazy for her. It took me a little while, but I finally figured out why she was constantly asked out, in a relationship or every guy’s dream girl. She was approachable.

Jul 27, 2010

Jul 15, 2010

When Dating Philosophies Collide

Recently, I met a guy. (Whew, crazy right?!). I met him at work - he was visiting the racetrack (I work up in the press box) with a large group of his buddies. They were enduring a bachelor party so had shimmied over on a nice little margarita buzz.

Jun 1, 2010

What Man Does To Woo The Woman

A while back I read a column written by the CC Staff listing 7 habits/tactics that women have engrained into their everyday lives that they utilize to “play the game” of attracting men. As far as men trying to attract the opposite sex it was said, “…men have it easy. As far as I know, they approach you and whip out the pick-up line. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t.”

Mar 21, 2010

Is Sending the First Text the Right Move?

In my experience, text messaging has been a blessing and a curse for relationships. Sure, you can edit and tweak everything you say before you say it. You can read messages and chose how and when to respond. You can even save conversations to replay and re-analyze over and over again (a practice I am wayyyy to familiar with).

Mar 12, 2010

Single. And Impatient

OK, remember that boy I was confused about earlier this year? Yeah, well he showed back up again in my life. Without a warning, he offered to help edit my honors paper (and I mean, trust me, I was NOT going to say no to someone with decent grammar willingly offering to proof read...I have to bribe my roommates with brownies).

Jan 27, 2010

Ask A Dude: Help Me With My Game!

Yo Dude, I'm just going to start this off by saying that I have no game, whatsoever. I think this is mostly due to the fact that I'm pretty shy and don't really speak up when I want something. If I meet a guy that is good looking or seems nice, I normally won't go after him unless he shows some interest first.

Dec 29, 2009

Tuffy Luv Is Just A Big Softie

Dear Tuffy, So this summer, I worked with a guy. I drooled over his good looks but didn't really get to know him all that well until the very last week, where we met up for coffee. We talked nonstop for 3 hours and I found myself having a better time than expected! I go to a school in another city, so we've been texting occasionally for about...4 months now.

Dec 5, 2009

Breaking Rules, Not Roles

Alright, we’ve been through this familiar phase one too many times. There’s that cute guy in your English class, you make eye contact, exchange a few words, and then you call every single one of your friends to fill them in with excruciating details. Then, a few weeks go by, nothing happens, and this routine soon becomes much too unexciting for you. So…what happens next?