Helping someone get through a breakup is hard, especially if you're asking the wrong questions.
You make out with a guy at a party, you text him on and off for a couple of weeks, you sleep together and hang out…but he’s still not your boyfriend.
When you’re in the thick of a broken heart, it’s hard to see any good in it. It’s hard to see any good in anything — a gorgeous day, a delicious meal, a great work out, your favorite movie — it all seems blah and bland and somehow reminds you of that person you just can’t be with anymore.
We put all this effort into getting over our ex boos and boyfriends and more often than not, they’ve already moved on – and possibly deleted our numbers. Ouch.
“Before we start talking about emotions, let’s establish this – we both want to have sex with each other,” he said. “We should at least give it a try before we say how we’ll feel afterwards. And if that happens, we’ll just talk about it like we’re doing now.” I thought that that was fair. And I’ve always been the kind to try anything once.
The older I get, the more I see how many forms real loss can take. Whether in the form of a lost friendship, the passing of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, loss is real. Loss is physically painful. Loss is absolute. And loss is not forgotten.
Because at day’s end, it’s his loss and my gain.
Despite having absolutely the worst relationship of my life with my ex, let's call him Ex, I regret none of the changes I made for him in those 2 years. He made me feel like a shitty person most of the time, but in the midst of all of that, there were nuggets of truth.
You’re now either going to get caught somewhere in the middle of them or else you’re going to pick a side. Or THEY are going to decide who should get to keep you as a contact on their iPhone.
I double-dog dare you to shoot the link to a douchebag that’s currently ignoring you. Because it's NOT like he’ll respond ANYWAY.
When it’s real, you’ll try your damndnest to keep it going. And we can't knock you wrongdoers for trying.
It’s over. Time to move on and move on forever. You had your shot, you took it, and it didn’t work out for one reason or many. Blame timing. Blame the fact that he/she had the emotional awareness of Honey Boo Boo. Blame whatever you want. Time passes. But people can change, though.
Two of the most important ways to survive the break is to establish what the rules of the break will be (before you ACTUALLY take the break), and to respect those rules. This makes us ask: what are the rules?
Without a doubt, this is the most critical time for what you two have and could have. So here are some general guidelines and helpful tips to make sure you get the answer that’s clearest, sanest, and right for you.
Sometimes you just need to stay at home, cry it out, and scream insults about your ex into your pillow. Whatever you do, just know that you're not alone. We've created the perfected playlist to help you through your alone time. Songs range from moods of wanting to get back together to never seeing your ex to revenge mode.