slut-shaming - page 2

Aug 16, 2012

On Doing What Makes You Happy and Forgetting the Haters [Dear DBN]

This week, do what makes you happy, because no matter what it is, it's always going to piss someone else off.

Apr 26, 2012

Stop Prude Shaming [Sexy Time]

As of late, I've been noticing a subtle trend in the discourse surrounding sex, wherein people go out of their way to emphasize how adventurous and kinky and open-minded they are in bed. Not that there is anything remotely wrong with any of that, but is there any reason to accompany those remarks with a dig at people who are more vanilla/tame/virginal?

Feb 2, 2012

Sexy Time: V Is For Virginity

From an American perspective, the rhetoric is either, "Sex is awesome, and if you're not having it, your life fails to have any meaning" or "If you're having sex, you're a dirty heathen who deserves to burn in eternal damnation." This is so dysfunctional, and I really feel it does more harm than good.

True Story: I'm the Slutty Friend

Yeah, I’ll admit it. Relative to the other women in my circle of college friends, I’m who people would call “the slutty one” because I’ve been with the most number of men. I don’t mind making out with a random stranger for fun and I’ll stay the night at his place if I’m looking for a change of atmosphere. Yes, I’m a slut.

Dec 26, 2011

Sexy Time: Why Sluts Have All The Fun

"Good girls always end up single because we don't give it up." A tweet similar to this popped up on my Twitter timeline, and my first reaction was merely to roll my eyes and keep scrolling. But hours later, it continued to haunt me. This attitude that you have to be sexually available in order to get a boyfriend isn't exactly new.

Aug 11, 2011

Sexy Time: First Date Nookie

I fail to see anything wrong with having sex on the first date. This flies in the face of conventional dating wisdom. Apparently, first date sex is so much more than "I think you're sexually attractive and I would like to do it with you." No, apparently boning on the first date means that you're slutty, that you're not interested in getting to know the other person, that it completely ruins any chance at a lasting relationship.

Jul 14, 2011

Apr 12, 2011

Sex in the News: The First Ever Slutwalk

Last weekend in Toronto, where I live, a reported 1,000 people marched together in the first-ever SlutWalk. The campaign was a response to a comment made at a local university by a police officer, who said women should avoid "dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized." The police have since apologized for the officer's comment, but it still hit hard with the organizers of SlutWalk.

Mar 25, 2011

Can We Stop the Slut Shaming Now?

Our society has incredibly dysfunctional, scary, and repressive ways of approaching sexuality, especially female sexuality. If we dare to step outside those narrowly defined boundaries, society finds it completely acceptable to hurl words like "slut" and "whore" at us. We're called sluts for endless reasons: our hair is too big, our nails are too red, we wear too much glitter, our skirts are too short, we look like we may enjoy giving blow jobs, we dance too suggestively, our sense is humor is too raunchy...

Dec 30, 2010

Sexy Time: New Year’s Resolutions for Better Sex

Making resolutions I probably can’t keep, and deciding, quite pointedly, that 2011 will be the best year yet are on my to-do list for the month of January.