It doesn’t matter, in the end, how trendy body acceptance is right now: for some of us, our physical appearances are going to haunt us until we learn to overcome deeply-ingrained societal expectations. One woman, fitness trainer Victoria Dariano, finally came to terms with a part of her body that she’s despised since she was a teen, and she chronicled her journey in an open letter on Instagram.
“Dear Butt Dimple,” she begins, an intro that almost made me laugh out loud. After all, how could something be less consequential? Still, to her, it was.
“I remember the first day you appeared,” her letter reads, “I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy.”
She goes on to speak about how she would avoid wearing some bikinis and her favorite leggings because in her head everyone was staring at this tiny, almost imperceptible “flaw.” She would exercise and eat well and consider cellulite treatment to change this part of herself.
She ends her letter on a triumphant note. “I have finally stopped letting you win,” she vows. “You will no longer make me feel unworthy.” She recognizes how “superficial” her concern was and finally embraces her butt dimple for what it is — hers.
A similar post to last week but I am overcoming an insecurity of mine. . Dear Butt Dimple, I remember the first day you appeared. I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy. You have always had an impact on what I chose to wear. I would avoid certain bikinis, and even some of my favorite leggings. I would never feel confident in a bikini because I thought everyone was staring at you. I would never wear my favorite leggings because again I always thought people were starting at you. Long shirts were my go-to as it was a way I could cover you up and have a moment of peace within my mind as no one would be judging you. I remember endless hours of looking at you in the mirror, squeezing you and wondering why I had you. I remember crying of embarrassment as other girls I was friends with didn’t have you. I would exercise extra hard in hopes you would go away. I would eat better also in hopes you would go away. I even considered cellulite treatments so you would finally just go away. You never did, you still haven’t. You took a lot of joy away from me, you caused a lot of stress for me, you made me insecure and took away my confidence. I could never feel in shape as you were always there. I am writing you today to tell you I have finally stopped letting you win. You will no longer make me feel unworthy, not good enough or not in shape because of you. I will no longer be afraid to wear certain bathing suits or leggings because of you. I will no longer hide you. You are what you are and I have finally come to peace with that. I have finally accepted you. ✨when I reflect back on this I realize how stupid it is to have let something this superficial have an impact on my life but it did. I am happy that I have been able to overcome this and I hope if you have a similar struggle you can realize that you too can and will. Don't let things of such insignificance ever take away your happiness. #fuckthedimple #freethebooty #couragetobeyou ❤️
Women are connecting with her viral Instagram, and saying so in the comments:
“This blows me away,” one user wrote.
“This was me today,” another said.
Dariano joins an ever-growing movement of women who are slamming societal body expectations and trying to find peace and self-confidence in who they are.