Should I Become a Dominatrix to Pay Off My Student Loans? [Ask a Slut]

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Dear Slut,

I am really struggling right now financially. I have a full time job working as a waitress, but the money never seems to be enough. And on top of the cost of living, I have student loans to pay off. A friend of mine told me that she knew a girl who was working as a dominatrix and making boat loads of cash without even having to sleep with men.

I am REALLY considering this, but I am worried about the implications. Even though I won’t be sleeping with the men, does it somehow still make me a prostitute? I’m not sure what is involved besides wearing leather and whipping men in dark rooms. I could use a bit of an education on what exactly the role entails and your thoughts on the business. Help me make the right choice, slut!

Thanks!

Whips and Chains

Dear Whips and Chains,

The age old should I sell my body for cash dilemma, has it crossed my mind before? Absolutely. I once worked at some foot fetish party and got $500 for a bunch of dudes to look at my feet. Granted it was the weirdest hour and a half in recent memory, but was totally worth it for the money and the story. That being said, I never delved into anything more serious than that because I wasn’t comfortable with it. Does that mean I think it’s wrong and that you shouldn’t do it, absolutely not.

To address your first question, if you start working as a dominatrix are you a prostitute? It’s not so black and white like that and I wouldn’t say you are hooking; but I would say that you are now working in the sex trade. The men are going to you for sexual gratification and although you aren’t sleeping with them you are getting them off. Now I am not saying this is a bad thing? Not at all, I actually believe prostitution should be legal; but that’s a whole different topic. What I am saying is that you can’t go into it thinking that you’re just going to hit guy in a suit with whip a few times and then walk out completely unchanged by the experience; being a dominatrix is very sexual and you are going to be in the trenches doing some freaky, naughty shit. You have to really consider if you are ok with it and if you have what it takes.

There are a wide variety of things a dominatrix does in her dungeon (that’s right you get a dungeon, how badass is that?). It can be anything from verbal humiliation to whipping to peeing on guys (that’s right, peeing). The dominatrix specializes in BDSM, which stands for: bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. One day you could be walking a guy around on a leash and another day you could be having him lick the soles of your shoes. There is a book that I would highly recommend that explains the job and the industry called I was a Teenage Dominatrix by Shawna Kenney. If you really are considering the career switch I would read the book; it’s not only wildly entertaining, it will give you a very clear idea of what you could be getting yourself into.

I would do your research and do a soul search and see if this is something you are comfortable with. I personally think dominatrixes are some of the most affirmed bad bitches around but that’s my opinion, it’s really your opinion that counts. Whatever you decide to do, you need to be able to feel ok with your choices. I will say though, the shoes and the costumes are a perk, and who doesn’t like to yell at guys and get paid for it… Just saying.

Xoxo,

Bang Bang

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