Lifestyle websites get a sh*t ton of traffic because we millennials tend to eat up articles like “The Best Type of Guy to Date Based On Your Horoscope” and “15 Reasons You Should Date Guys Like Your Dad,” even though no one ever questions why that’s creepy AF. But the point is, no one wants to be alone, yet it’s hard to commit.
As humans, we naturally tend to look after ourselves and fear getting hurt. In fact, I was literally told word for word one time, “You’re seriously amazing. You’re wife material!…But I can’t do this.” Wait, what? At 23, I don’t really know if that was a compliment or not, but if I was apparently so great, what couldn’t he do?
In today’s dating world, we want to have our cake and eat it too, so how do we know when something is actually for real? The truth is – I have no idea. Unfortunately, just because you have a toothbrush at his house doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve got the only key to his peen.
1. He lets you wear his clothes.
He thinks you look hot in his shirt.
2. He takes you out to dinner.
He has a good enough job where he can afford to pay for your burger. He also has a good enough job to buy other girls’ burgers too.
3. He holds your hand.
AKA, pick up the pace, you’re falling behind.
4. He texts you first.
“Hey” doesn’t count.
5. He snuggles with you.
It’s called oxytocin.
6. You have clothes at his place.
Don’t kid yourself. You just keep forgetting to bring that sweatshirt back to your apartment.
7. He calls you ‘babe.’
It’s the same thing he calls Jenny, Rebecca, Jessica, and Ashley.
8. You’ve met a few of his friends.
So you’ve met a few of his frat bros and their girlfriends. Woop-de-doo. It’s been eight months and you still haven’t met his parents.
9. He lets you take care of his dog.
He trusts you. This does not make a relationship…okay, a lot of times it does, but not always.
10. The sex is AH-MAZING.
Let’s just say he’s been practicing.
11. You’re in his Snapchat story.
So are those frat bros.
12. You legit Netflix and chill.
Like people in actual relationships do. Just don’t get it confused that you’re in one.
13. He doesn’t just talk to you at 2 a.m.
You’re definitely more than a booty call, but he’s also probably just bored at work.
14. He’s seen you without makeup.
You can be yourself in front of him; he pretends like he is, but is he actually?
15. He cooks for you.
Don’t be fooled by those delicious scrambled eggs. They’re filled with secrets.
16. He has a kitchen cabinet with some of your favorite snacks.
Let’s be honest, he likes them too.
17. He wasn’t freaked out when your time of the month came without warning and it got on his sheets.
He was probably caught off guard, but in order to keep f*cking you, he could get over it.
18. He says he doesn’t want to hookup with anyone else, yet can’t call you his girlfriend.
Don’t get me wrong, oftentimes these things can and do turn into a relationship, but not always. A FWB situation can be great, but if you catch feelings and know that’s not what he’s looking for or not what you’re looking for, you’re only hurting yourself. Word to the wise? Run. Run as far and as fast as you can. If a guy (or girl) is really into you, they’ll lock it down stat.