In no particular order, here are 10 questions to ask on a first date that are bound to give you the answers you might want to know about someone you’re considering to date. These questions are also sure to spark more conversation between the two of you, leading you both to learning more about each other than you probably expected to. One thing is for sure, depending on the responses you get to these 10 questions, you’ll surely know whether or not date number two will be happening in the future. Let’s get into it!
1. What are your goals/ambitions?
It’s important to know whether or not they have goals and aspirations. You don’t want to become involved with someone who doesn’t seem to have any direction in their life. I also find that people without goals or ambitions usually don’t have a zest for life and are very boring, uninspired types of people.
2. What was the last book/article you read?
I don’t f*ck men who don’t read. Okay, it’s not just about sleeping with him, but seriously, I don’t waste my time with men who don’t read. A person who doesn’t read willingly is very unattractive to me. It also says a lot about their level of intelligence and a keen intellect is a must on my list of qualities I look for in the people I date.
3. What kind of music do you like?
The kind of music a person listens to says a lot about who they are. I am comfortable with a wide selection of genres and enjoy bonding with people over a good, mutual taste in music. Generally, I think you can tell if you two would ‘vibe’ based off of the type of music you’re both into.
4. What do you like to do for fun?
I don’t know anyone who wants to date someone who is boring. It’s always interesting to learn what people do to entertain themselves. It’s fun to see how laid back, adventurous, artistic, or creative a person is based on how they answer this question.
5. What are your hobbies or interests?
I like this question because again, you’re getting to learn more about the type of person they are. You might even find that you two share a number of interests or that you two are complete opposites. This would ultimately let you know if a second date is necessary. If you hate the outdoors and walking and wildlife are at the top of their interest list, chances are that the two of you wouldn’t really work out.
6. Do you have any hidden talents?
Have you ever looked at someone and tried to imagine what kinds of things there into? Well, it’s really hard to do that. This question makes that easier by asking a person if they have any hidden talents. People naturally like to talk about themselves. This question offers some great conversation based on the answers given. There’s a lot more to people than what meets the eye.
7. Are you family-oriented?
This is another important quality I look for in the person I’m considering to date. I am very family-oriented and would like for the person I’m dating to be as well. You may or may not be into the family scene, but I think this question is a great one to ask on a first date.
8. What are your pet peeves?
I think it’s interesting learning about what makes a person tick. Not for any particular reason, but the answers are sure to continue to drive your conversation.
9. Who in your life are you closest to?
I find it comforting to know that someone I’m thinking of dating is capable of building strong relationships. I like to ask who they are closest to hear them talk about their bond with whoever is special to them. I like to learn how they got so close and why they mean so much to them. I love hearing about the success of other personal relationships my date has been capable of building.
10. What is your best quality?
Again, people naturally like to talk about themselves. This is a great conversation driver. It also makes your date think pretty deeply. I also think it shows whether or not that person is used to thinking positively about themselves. I cannot be with someone who can’t recognize any good qualities within themselves.
The list could go on, but I think these questions are a great starting point for getting to know someone on a first date without having to waste time on a second! Don’t forget to consider where you have your first date as well. Make sure it is in a place that you two can talk comfortably. Happy dating!