To no one’s surprise, trying to get a job as a woman usually involves combatting ingrained societal sexism. One old white man on LinkedIn proves that as he specifically addresses women in an essay telling them to not appear “high-maintenance” by not wearing their engagement rings to a job interview. Ugh.
Bruce Hurwitz, a freelance recruiter and career counselor, took it upon himself to offer advice to women about why they don’t get the jobs they want. He sticks to one piece of seemingly simple advice: don’t wear your engagement ring when you’re being interviewed. That’s even the title of the damn essay. With an exclamation point. Because if you do, people will completely disregard every other quality you have and reject you for the job based on your jewelry.
Hurwitz starts by narrating him meeting a woman who had gone to many interviews, but wasn’t getting any offers. He suggested she “lose the rock!” When asked why by this woman, who at least sensed the sexism, Hurwitz explained that, “When a man sees that ring he immediately assumes you are high maintenance.” Furthermore, “when the woman at the office who has the largest diamond on her finger, sees that ring, she will realize that if you are hired she will fall to second place and will, therefore, not like you.” So, not only will men not like you, but neither will women! Yay, patriarchy!
He continues his misogyny by concluding at the end of the essay that “losing the rock” is the only way you can be engaged and considered a hirable, likable candidate. Oh but, “if you don’t have one, but got engaged by signing a pre-nup, find a way to let male interviewers know that. They’ll respect you.” His argument is that being engaged is not a “protected class” like gender, religion or marital status. Because no one has ever been discriminated against in the workforce for their gender or sexuality or religion before.
People were pretty pissed at this essay, with its sexist assumptions about women (in general, not just those who wear an engagement ring). Not only is Hurwitz blatantly displaying his outdated misogynistic mindset, he’s doing so with the title of “career counselor,” giving his advice the façade of legitimacy. Many have commented this, calling his views “archaic” and “ridiculous,” among other synonyms. Naturally, Hurwitz made things worse by writing another article titled “What Jewelry Not to Wear to a Job Interview” which just elaborates his sexism over and over again.
Hurwitz, I don’t know what century you’re writing from, but just in case you didn’t know, someone can be stuck up and difficult and not have an engagement ring. You’ve proven that with this essay.
[H/T: Elite Daily]