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Why You Shouldn’t Worry About Being Single In Your Early Twenties

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Being single is a struggle of its own, but being single in your early twenties is like being a part of a seemingly never-ending battle. Many of your former high school classmates are getting married or already have children, your best friends are all in long-term relationships, and meanwhile you’re still just trying to figure out what you want to eat for breakfast. Harsh, right?

You might be thinking, ‘Yeah, that’s me. I’m the pathetic spinster with no prospects,’ but when you think about it, you’re probably definitely not. You’re probably a goal-driven, kickass, independent woman who doesn’t need a man.

Single in 20s

It’s the 21st century. Doing everything from being esteemed college professors to genius-level biophysicists, women are being pushed harder than ever before to succeed and excel in the workforce. Is the effort rewarding? Hell yeah, it is! But it’s also time-consuming. Building a career, striving for a higher degree of education and pushing yourself to be the best you can possibly be, it all takes time. And because of that, you might not have extra time to give.

Relationships are a two-way street; they involve mutual care and reciprocal interaction. Whether it’s going out to dinner or talking over the phone for ten minutes, there has to be involvement between two people in order to have something meaningful. Right now, between everything else going on, you might not have the time to get yourself involved and to fulfill your end of a relationship.

At the moment, you might feel like you need companionship and you might feel like you’re not good enough to have it, but I urge you to think differently.

Single in 20s

You’re in your early twenties. You have years to figure out what you want out of a relationship. So why worry about tying yourself down so soon? Live your life and build that career of yours, do anything and everything you want to do. Don’t let a man (or woman) get in the way of your goals and aspirations because in the end, you deserve that high-ranking job and that wonderful partner who treats you like the strong woman you are.

In the words of Mandy Hale, “A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”

    Sharmaine Ong is a graduate student at St. Joseph's College Brooklyn and she's currently working on an MFA in Creative Writing. On her free time, she likes to walk around the city to find the best latte art.