5 Important Steps To Take In Order To Get Over Your Ex

I’m going to be brutally honest. Going through a break up is not going to be easy. Whether you broke up with them first, or they got the jump on you, it is going to be a long road ahead, full of lots of tears and many ups and downs. However, you can and will eventually get over them. You’re heartbroken. Of course. But, girl, don’t fret- you are not alone.

Before you try these, I’ll like to recommend cutting off all contact with your Ex, as you are not going to get over them if you’re still speaking to them. Think of it as rubbing salt in your wound every time their name pops up on your phone.

This is your time now, and the focus should be solely on you and you only. You are allowed to be upset, and never be ashamed to cry. You need to release all of the sad emotions before you can start moving on fully.


1: Remind Yourself Why You Broke Up

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It can be so easy to focus on all of the positives after a break up and not on the negatives. There is a reason why you guys broke up and you need to remind yourself this. Do not start wasting your time on ‘what ifs’ and focusing on the past. Refresh your memory by simply writing down all of the bad things about your relationship.


2: Surround Yourself With Good People

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Right now, you’re vulnerable and you need to be around good, supportive people. People who make you feel good about yourself and make you laugh. You deserve the time to focus on something different, and being around people who make you feel great, can distract you from your heartbreak.

However, don’t force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. This is your time now right?


3: Sweat it out

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Throwing yourself into a regular workout routine reduces stress and tires your body. This makes it virtually impossible to find yourself staring at the ceiling at 1 a.m., wondering what went wrong.

Exercise also releases chemicals that make you happy, which is just what you need right now. Happy you, happy days.


4: Don’t Do Anything Drastic

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Okay, so you’ve probably heard the famous quote by Coco Chanel: ‘A girl who cuts her hair is about to change her life.’ Although some of this may be true, simply chopping half your hair off isn’t going to make you forget about your ex. Dying your hair bleach blonde also isn’t going to mend your broken heart.

You’re already experiencing a lot of emotions and perhaps even a shift in your day-to-day routine, so there’s no need to add to the trauma by doing something totally cliché that you might later come to regret.


5:  Be Patient

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You’re not going to over them over-night. Fact. As you are going through the healing process, you may start to become impatient with yourself or grow frustrated that you can’t stop thinking about them. When we lose someone, it can potentially stir up other things we have lost in the past, so the hurt you’re experiencing may not even be about your ex, but simply a grief over many things.

Be kind to yourself and get rid of any set expectations.

‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.’ -Vivian Greene

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