Ah, yes. That time of year where you want to talk to your crush and see if he would go with you to the latest movie playing, but you don’t know how to start a conversation with them. Luckily enough, we got your back.
Talking to a crush is the most terrifying thing ever in your life. I realize that there are other ones, but let’s be real. It’s pretty up there on the list, and quite frankly, it’s humiliating. Your heart rate starts to race, palms are getting sweaty, your mind goes completely blank, and you begin to stutter because your nerves are getting the best of you. It doesn’t matter who you’re attracted to, its still a terrifying experience that we sometimes have to overcome it. You could always check out this list, or you can wait and see what we have to offer.
Are you Facebook friends or do you have their number?
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First and foremost. Do you have their number or do you have them on Facebook? Either way, you have access to message them. However, having their number is more intimate and on a personal level than messaging them on Facebook. If you guys are friends on Facebook, do they have messager as well? Lately, everyone is on Facebook for the messager app and not the actually posting about what they have done today. If they have messager, it might be easier for you to work up the nerve until their chat bubble pops up and sends you over the edge. At least with texting, you could always check out what they sent and go from there and pray that they don’t have iPhones.
Always text first.
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I know what you’re going to say, but I have anxiety. I have fear as well, but you cannot get anywhere if you don’t at least try. We live in a time where if we want something, we have to actually take the first step. Remember that girl who dm Michael B. Jordan on Twitter last week? Yeah, be like her and suck it up and talk yourself up. You won’t be going anywhere if you don’t. If you need to, blast Demi Lovato’s Confident and talk to yourself like the bad*** you are. Channel your inner Queen B and own it. The reason why is because if the woman sends the first text, then it appears to be a memorable impression and it’s a positive reaction. So that way, the other person can send the first message the next time.
Have a plan.
This is important as well, without this, this entire thing can fall apart within minutes, and it won’t look great, at all. If you guys are friends and you know what they’re interested in, you could always use that as an icebreaker. If they’re into superheroes, ask, “Have you seen Infinity War?” or “Have you seen Wonder Woman yet?”. Then you guys can talk about your favorite scenes or the parts you didn’t like about that movie. If things go well, you could always plan a day where you two can watch those movies together, maybe not Infinity War. Not yet. Or you could always talk about who is your favorite superhero might be, and if you guys happen to like the same superhero, it will make you feel better about this. Or ask what they’re doing, maybe they’re watching a show and ask about what show they’re watching. If they’re watching Brooklyn Nine-Nine and if you haven’t seen it, ask them if its any good.
Something to keep in mind, if they’re sending short texts to answer your texts, its time to step away and say, catch you later alligator or see you tomorrow! Don’t take it personally, they maybe had a bad day, or they’re not having a great mental health day.
When in doubt, send an emoji.
We live in a generation where most people use emojis to send to their crushes as a flirty exchange when you reached that level. I’m, not an expert when it comes to sending your crushes emojis, I tend to do the funny ones instead of flirty ones because I want to keep breaking the ice. However, if you’re feeling flirty, use the wink face, kissing face and heart emojis in that order, and you will get a reply from them.
Don’t sweat this.
When in doubt, you can always tell your crush this:
I get it, it’s easy to get inside of your head but however. You’re going to be okay, keep telling yourself that you’re this powerful person who deserves to do this and can do this. Take your time and don’t rush things.
