Ariana Grande and her boyfriend of two years Mac Miller recently called it quits. Now she’s rumored to be dating Saturday Night Live cast member Pete Davidson, but that’s a whole other story. After Grande and Miller’s breakup became public Miller was arrested for DUI and his blood alcohol content was twice the legal limit. He supposedly struck a curb and then hit an electrical pole. He and his two passengers then fled on foot.
Fans of Miller are connecting dots and believing that Miller’s breakup was the catalyst to his DUI. Now they’re spinning Miller into a victim because Grande broke his heart. Twitter user Elijah Flint, @FlintElijah tweeted that Miller’s situation is “heartbreaking.”
He tweeted, “Mac Miller totalling [sic] his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a ten song album to her called the divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood.”
His tweet blew up with over 19,000 retweets and over 84,000 likes. It got so big it even summed the attention of Grande who put this delusional fan in his place. Grande replied with a notes app screenshot, which is arguably the best type of response.
“How abused that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which by the way isn’t the case,” she then wrote that only his song “Cinderella” is about her.
Grande then went on to explain that she isn’t Miller’s “babysitter” and should not feel obligated to be one. “I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety and prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming/blaming women for a man’s inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem,” she wrote.
The way that Flint talks about Miller and his DUI puts all of his actions on someone else, making him blameless. That’s not the case. Grande didn’t cause Miller to drink twice the legal limit then get behind the wheel, nor is she responsible for preventing that from happening. Miller is 26-years-old and should be held responsible for his actions no matter if he’s heartbroken or not.
“Of course I didn’t share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening but it was. I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other woman in this position does as well,” she concludes.
Grande called Flint out so perfectly that he posted his own notes app screenshot in response to Grande apologizing for his first tweet. He says that he’s “sorry you feel my tweet stigmatizes women for ending a toxic relationship.” His apology doesn’t take ownership of his actions and instead puts the negative interpretation of his tweet on Grande. Once again making a woman responsible for the actions of a man. His apology isn’t a total wash though and at points seems sincere.
Grande didn’t interpret his tweet to be negative or to maybe have stigmatized women, his tweet did do that. But of course, Grande took the higher road, bless her heart, and responded by “sending him love.”
Grande’s original response points out a lot of gender stereotypes and issues when a woman is in a relationship with someone who is an addict. Gender roles tell women that they need to care and nurture their loved ones, but in reality, it’s not.