Gatsbying: The New Dating Trend You Have To Deal With


So, there’s a new dating term com around. That term is called “gatsby-ing.” The term was coined by model Matilda Dobs in an article for TOMBOY Beauty. This is how she describes it:

“Why, instead of just sending a text to the boy that I like, am I throwing the equivalent of a champagne soaked, chandelier swinging, Charleston daying party on my instagram story? All for the ceaseless green light across the water that is the attention of a boy who, let’s be real, probably isn’t good enough for me anyway?”

You may be thinking huh? You can’t truly understand what gatsby-ing is unless you’ve read or watched the movie for the acclaimed American novel by F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby but you can check out Thug Notes’ video for a short (and iconic) summary and analysis of the novel.

So Gatsby would basically throw extravagant parties across the bay from Daisy’s mansion with the intention to solely catch her attention, hoping one day she would wander in. And she did. Their time together didn’t end well.


So what does Gatsby have to do with your social media posts? Gatsby-ing is using your social media accounts in order to gain the attention of your crush like Gatsby did with his parties.

Maybe you’re out at a cute coffee shop with your BFF. You do this every Wednesday but once your crush is in your life you want to share this experience. So you make your BFF take a boomerang of you sipping on your latte (or tea) to post on your Instagram story. You don’t rest until you see that your crush has seen the post and you wait for something.


You don’t know exactly what you’re waiting for. But you’re likely waiting for a response from them–hopefully asking you to go to the said coffee shop. Or just plant the thought in their mind that you go to cute coffee shops and they can be a part of that narrative.

This is all instead of just–texting them. It can only be “more romantic” to paint a perfect picture of yourself for them like Gatsby does with his parties.

This creates major confusion: like how do you know if someone is gatsby-ing you? Maybe your attention is caught but it isn’t anyone’s first thought to think extra AF posts are for them. Who makes the first move in all of this?

However, you choose to catch the attention of your crush, whether you text them or construct a whole thing in order to gain their attention we mostly support you. We hope it will end better than Gatsby and Daisy did…


Good luck out there, Old Sport.

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