Growing up I’m sure we all have been asked, “when you first look at someone, what’s the first thing you notice?” It’s clear physical attraction plays a major role when it comes to sparking chemistry, but there are so many other key factors that make those sparks fly. Women typically think men look for long legs, shiny hair, hourglass curves, and of course men love these features but there are certain personality traits men want instead. Physical features tend to naturally diminish and become less attractive over time, personality does not.
Perth’s Millionaire Matchmaker, Louanne Ward, has been playing cupid for the country’s elite for more than two decades. The self-confessed romantic has revealed what men look for in a woman after posing the question to more than 200 men in her Little Black Book. Check out the top results and see the true qualities men desire.
Men want women who can stand as their equal, and intellectually challenge him. Being intellectually challenging and having the ability to hold real discussions about meaningful topics, will always trump shallow beauty in the long run. When conversations lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together, but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with someone on that alone.
There is a huge difference between being confident and being cocky, and men take notice. Majority of the men ward has questioned all agree nothing is sexier than a woman who’s comfortable in her own skin. Being confident doesn’t always have to do with looks, it can also do with being confident in the way you speak and present yourself. A question to always keep in mind is, when you walk into a room does your presence stand out?
A Sense Of Humor
We know how important it is to women for the man in their life to have a generally good sense of humor, but it’s equally as important in the other direction as well. Particularly, if a man has a great sense of humor, it will be lost on a woman who is too dry or stiff. Guys like a girl who laughs at their jokes but isn’t mindless and isn’t always serious about everything.
A woman who is thoughtful, loving, and caring. Someone who does small things for you for no other reason that she loves you (as you do for her). A woman who, when she smiles at you, gives you no choice but to smile back. A woman who radiates warmth from her heart. That is a woman all men are drawn to.
It’s never easy being honest and open with your feelings, especially with someone who could potentially hurt them. All men agree that women who are upfront about how their feelings rather than being passive aggressive are women they are more attracted to. Most men feel safe and able to expose their true feelings around women who can reciprocate the same exposure.
It’s true looks aren’t everything. All women are different and have qualities that make them unique, which is why men are drawn to whats inside more than whats on the outside. Of course, the first thing you notice in someone is their looks, but what gets you to stay is what they have to say.