First dates can be a bit intimidating and overwhelming. Not because its a potential way of meeting your future beau but meeting new people, in general, is pretty nerve-wracking. You think of different scenarios of things going wrong, getting there too late/early, or not knowing what to say.
We got you covered. Here are some questions you should keep in mind when on your first date with someone new to get to really know the important things and spark up a conversation.
1. “What Are You Most Proud Of?”
Asking your date what they’re most proud of can lead to many different things you can find out about them like some of their values and if what they’re proud of is more in a professional sense or personal. You get a better sense of their accomplishments which leads more to their background.
2. “What Are Your Hobbies?”
It’s always a really good thing to know what your date does in their spare time and what they enjoy. Hobbies really bring up someone’s excitement because they define their self-identity and help relieve stress. It can also help you imagine how they might want to one day share their hobby with you.
3. “What Made You Want To Meet?”
The last thing you want to do is give off the impressions that you’re trying to get compliments, however, it all depends on how you ask. Knowing what it was that made them draw to you specifically and take the time out to meet. It can be helpful when figuring out their motives from the date.
4. “What Is Your Ideal Relationship?”
Tread lightly with this question, they might feel like you’re moving a little fast but knowing what someone looks for in a partner and relationship can give you more insight on if you feel like they’re a right fit for you. Knowing each other’s goals are very important especially if you plan on continuing to see each other so that you aren’t lead on or confused on what you guys may be in the future.
5. “How Are Your Friendships?”
The people that your date has around you can influence them a lot in decisions and life choices they make, especially a very close friend. Knowing the relationship they hold between their friends or best friend can be crucial to see what kind of value he puts into it as well. It’s a great way to see how they speak and talk about them, just in case somewhere may ask about you in the future, you can get a bit of insight.
6. “What Was Your Family Life Like Growing Up?”
One way or another, the person who you are today is influenced by your family upbringing one way or another. Knowing how they were raised, what kind of environment it was, knowing a little more about their parents, etc – is an important thing to note. It can be very personal for some people depending on how they were raised and what their family meant to them, but still, their lack of or their plethora of how much they tell you can tell you a lot on their family relationship.
7. “What Made You Choose The Career You Are In Today?”
A person’s career is a huge part of someone’s life since that’s how they make a living and its something they have to constantly do all the time, more than anything else. It can be a great way to figure out their path to how they got to where they are now and if they ever want to do anything different in the future.