Hey Dude,
So I met a guy a few months ago, he’s a client from my work. We always have great conversation and exchange flirty banter when I see him, etc. Anyways, I ran into him on my first day at college last week, we sat down together and talked for awhile and he showed me where my classes are and he said he was going away for the weekend to his family’s place but looked forward to seeing me in our orientation seminar next week.
He has yet to ask me for my number…
I think I really like him, but am I just over analysing the situation and he’s just being friendly? Or should I just be bold and suggest we meet up for a drink?
From,
Super Confused
Dear Super Confused,
What’s there to be confused about? You knew a guy who ended up going to the same college as you. Promising circumstances. He showed you around, so you got to spend some time together. Very promising, indeed. Then he said he’d see you at orientation and hasn’t asked for your number. What’s panicking you? From where I sit, you’re putting a little too much thought into a thoughtless situation.
The flirty banter, all that’s great. Totally see how you would get your hopes up. Bottom line: he hasn’t asked you for your number, he’s yet to pursue you, but clearly you two get along. It’s ONLY THE BEGINNING. More importantly, you’re only at the beginning. Don’t get yourself too deep into one honeypot when you’ve got a whole hive to explore.
You’re starting college! You’ve got, I’m assuming, thousands of new people to meet, lots of new guys to get to know, should you so choose, and here you are fixating on one guy you happened to know already before you even got to the campus. Don’t trip yourself up. You’ve got all the time and options in the world right now. If you delve too deep into this shallow hole you’re going to put a damper on your first semester of freedom. RELAX!
So things aren’t moving as fast and as far as you want them to with this guy. Don’t sweat it. If it’s going to grow into something then it will. He’s just one guy. Right now, enjoy your independence. Explore. Discover. In four years, you’ll barely remember what’s his name who showed you around your first day.
Let life happen,
The Dude
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