Dear Slut,
I have a new guy in my life and I like him a lot. We have fun together and the sex is off the chains. But he dropped a bomb on me last week; he told me he is bi-sexual. My initial reaction is that it’s a big turn off for me. I don’t want to sound homophobic, but right away I started to wonder if he was just gay and not ready to admit it yet. I can’t help that I feel weird about it.
He seems like he is really into me when we are together. Am I being bigoted? What if he leaves me for a man? I am so confused. What would you do, slut?
xoxo
Bi Bi Baby
Dear Bi Bi Baby,
This is a tough one. On one hand, I implore you to be more open-minded and not to immediately close yourself off. On the other hand, I see that your knee jerk reaction is to drop this guy and I don’t know if I can convince you otherwise, but let me give it a shot.
It is true that some men have used bi-sexuality as a sort of gateway drug into gay. I will give you that. BUT, since you and your guy have already hung out and had sex under the guise that he is straight and you haven’t noticed anything fishy then it is highly probable that you have a true bi-sexual on your hands. They are like unicorns; do not let this go if you know what’s good for you. Bi-sexual people have the ability (I say privilege) to fall in love with somebody regardless of their gender. How fucking advanced is that? They are like future Omni-gods sent to earth to fuck us all!!!
Ok maybe that’s going too far, but really it is cool. Also, because they have slept with and are attracted to both genders, they are almost always very receptive to your needs and feelings AND are dynamite in the sack. Why would you not want to be in a relationship with somebody like this?
I will say I do understand the fear of seeing your man sucking a dick (or at least picturing him sucking a dick). If you’re a straight gal from the Midwest it may be a little much. In my younger years I found that thought unsettling, too. But then I got over dating those blue polo shirt frat guys and dipped my toes in the artsy guy pond.
I know you won’t change your mind overnight, but remember — sucking a dick is not a job for a weak man; you’ve been down there I assume, it’s a war zone. It’s just a sexual act. It doesn’t define a person’s character and masculinity. Also, a lot more guys have sucked a dick than you think (trust me I always ask them, for investigative journalist purposes).
To address your question, “What if he leaves me for a man?” My answer is: who gives a shit. People break up, make up, cheat, steal, lie. Is the worst thing ever to be left for a man? I would think it would be worse to be left by a much hotter and more accomplished woman. But that’s just me; I’m catty like that.
In closing, Bi Bi Baby, please do try to think this over before you pull the trigger. Or at least spend a little more time with this guy and see how you feel. Maybe you could get a threesome out of it!! DID YOU HEAR ME, A TWO GUY ONE GIRL, WORSHIPING YOUR LADY BODY THREESOME.
XOXO
Bang Bang
The Guy I'm Seeing Told Me He's Bi-Sexual. What Do I Do? [Ask a Slut]
