A narcissist is defined in the dictionary as, “a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.” So basically, a narcissist is someone that’s vain and obsessed with themselves. We probably all know one, or a few people who are excessively obsessed with themselves, maybe we even dated one! A narcissist isn’t completely into himself all the time! Their behavior changes as they try to put their best foot forward which can conceal their narcissist tendencies. It can be hard to pinpoint. It’s healthy to be into yourself and confident but narcissism takes a different level of self-obsession.
Have you ever dated a narcissist? Does this sound familiar? We said narcissism is hard to pinpoint so let’s take a look at 10 characteristics that all narcissistic guys do in relationships.
He wants to be the center of attention.
So let’s say your boyfriend acts differently in different environments. He’s quiet at home but when he takes you to his office party he has to be the hot-shot, center of attention the whole time. In every atmosphere you’re in with him, he does his best to be the center of attention and sometimes he doesn’t even seem like himself.
He has a huge ego.
This is an obvious one. A narcissist will be constantly hyping themselves up. Everything they’ve done in their life is better than what’ve you accomplished and you’ll hear about it. ALL. THE. TIME.
He won’t take accountability.
Nothing is a narcissist’s fault. You’ll catch on quickly to this because you’ll always be the one at blame, apologizing while he’s perfect. This is super unhealthy.
He can’t take criticism.
This is similar to being unable to take accountability. A narcissist will believe that they can’t be doing anything wrong. They’re perfect in their mind. If you try to call attention to a mistake, they’ll take it as a personal attack.
He belittles you.
This one is a horrible quality and completely unhealthy in a relationship. As a narcissist thinks they’re perfect, they’re hyping themselves up and putting you down. Especially in public when they’re the center of attention because they thrive off of that.
He’s hot and cold.
One second he’s complimenting you and making you feel special and the next he’s making you feel like crap. This back and forth puts him in control and narcissists thrive off of that.
He tears other down to make himself feel better.
He’s criticizing everyone to make him feel better about himself! It sounds like jealousy and he’s doing it to convince himself and you that he’s better than everyone.
The heart of narcissism is deep self-consciousness. If you’re hanging out with friends, he’s accusing you of cheating. He wants complete control over you because, in reality, he’s deeply insecure. The self-obsession is a facade and an attempt to convince you and himself of how great he is.
Narcissistic men are always right so you may not even notice that they’re lying. The stories he tells are over the top, embellished and sound like he’s stretching the truth. You’ll notice this when he’s telling an elaborate, hyped up version of a story that you witnessed.
He tries to make you feel jealous.
They aim to make you jealous because that means you need them! They’ll be petty and say my ex-used to do this and this. You’ll feel jealous and insecure and will, in turn, lean on to him more. He wants to control you.
Any of these sounds familiar? Girl, time to say bye! ASAP!