Dating in college is a wide concept. To some dating means hooking up on the weekends, texting during the week and not having a title; think of a casual relationship without commitment or titles. For some, it’s dating in the traditional sense where you do go out on dates and partake in a monogamous relationship. And some people just forgo dating and strictly hook up with people because they don’t want a relationship.
So you’re probably thinking dating in college is all over the place and you’re right. It’s inconsistent and there’s a lot of unspoken rules. Of course, people still have feelings for others but dating or having a relationship isn’t always the end result. Casual without commitment is a popular route that people choose to go with.
If you’re a freshman going into college, here are 5 things that seniors know about dating that you probably don’t. Dating in college is way different than dating in high school.
Have fun – but don’t expect a relationship.
Have fun and flirt with others but know that just because you hook up doesn’t mean you’re going to be in a relationship. It sucks and it’s different but college relationships most of the time are no strings attached. You could really like the person you’re hanging out, hook up with and texting but a lot of people don’t want relationships. Casual relationships without commitment are usually what people want.
I’ll say it again but a hookup doesn’t automatically mean it’ll turn into something more. If you’re looking for a relationship make that known from the start! There are definitely people that want relationships too. You just have to find them!
If someone asks you on a date say, YES.
You may not get this chance again and if you meet someone that wants to date you and that’s what you’re looking for too, say yes. Not everyone is looking for a relationship and if you want that, you need to find someone that’s on the same page as you.
Open yourself up to people you wouldn’t normally go for! College introduces you to a whole new world of people so give yourself a chance to try something new.
Don’t get involved with someone that’s attached to someone else.
So you meet a guy at a party, he’s a senior and he has a girl in his class that he usually hooks up with or even a girlfriend but he’s trying to get with you. DON’T. First off drama and people won’t like you if you’re a freshman hooking up with senior’s significant others. Cheating is never condoned but know that when you’re a freshman, the older college boys tend to go for freshmen.
It’s the unwritten rule that we talked about earlier where you don’t go hooking up with someone who has a go-to person or a relationship that you know they like. It’ll start unwanted drama and it definitely won’t be long-term for you.
Avoid dating where you live.
Dating someone or hooking up with someone that lives in the same dorm as you can be great and it can be the worst. It’s great if you’re dating and doing well because you’re one floor away from each other and you can hang out and see each other whenever. It’s the worst if you previously dated or hooked up and stopped talking because you’ll see that person often, whether walking past each other to get in or while doing laundry and it’s awkward. Plus, you’ll see them with their new flings or relationships and it won’t feel good.
Long distance relationships are hard.
If you’re still in a relationship with your high school sweetheart, it’s tough taking that relationship with you to college. Even if it’s not technically long distance, you still won’t see each other as often. Having a long distance relationship can become a burden because you’re navigating a new school, meeting new people and you have to have a very strong and trusting relationship when you’re in making it long distance.
You meet so many new people in college and some people say that you can miss out when you’re in a relationship which can happen. Ultimately, you have to make the best decision for you so that you can enjoy college because it is a great time.
College dating is tricky and it’s stupid sometimes. It’s not easy and it’s not black and white but you figure out how to navigate through it and you realize it’s not for everyone! Relationships are less common but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist in college. If you want that, make it known from the start and eventually you’ll meet the right person who wants that too.