As ridiculous as it seems, especially considering how fabulous and beautiful you are, there are some guys who just want to your friend. And tragically, it always seems to be the guy you want as more than a friend.
There's only a few rules to success: 1. Cook a proper meal, nothing involving chicken nuggets or anything microwaveable; 2. Match your ambiance with your meal (candles, a nicely set table and a clean room); and 3. There has to be dessert, and it has to involve chocolate.
“I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it’s a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table.”
Apparently there are 16 things "all guys" should know about their girlfriends, and the way to find most of the answers is by snooping. Uhh...really?
In early relationships, before I was the Bold Girl I am today, I would hide my feelings, no matter the cost. I would let things build and build until I was banging my arms against the dashboard of my car screaming, "I'M FINE, GOD! WHY DON'T YOU BELIEVE ME."
I asked about 10 of my girl friends their thoughts on sex on the first date, and I also sent out a survey to the same number of dudes. Almost all straight 20 somethings—and almost all agreeing on one thing...
It's not that I'm not happy for you, of course I'm glad, but it's like -- are you reeeeallly sure?
In one of my most recent romantic situations, I was constantly convinced it would turn out like a romantic movie. Like, "Oh you don't like me now. That's cool. We're meant to be." I actually had full-blown day dreams where we would both end up in New York at some hip bar.
So often we doubt our gut feelings and ignore what we know is good in favor of testing the waters for what might be OK, what might be normal and reasonable and fine. This week, stop waiting for someone else’s OK and do what you know is right, ‘cause at the end of the day, the only one you can rely on to look out for you is you.
Figuring out what to wear for a date is a surprisingly tricky process. You want to look cute, obviously, but not like you tried to look cute. After all, he can't know you spent 45 minutes getting your hair to look all Beyonce I-woke-up-like-this.
Let's talk about the stuff you don't mention to your friends when describing your amazing run-in with the guy you obsess over. You know, the part about you choking on your food or spitting on his face while talking? Yeah, that stuff.
You don’t have to sit and wonder what he or she thought of your first date anymore; just hop on twitter and see their thoughts on the date in real-time. The question is no longer “Will I get a kiss on the first date?” The more common question asked now is, “Will we have sex on the first date?”
Instead of filling up precious girl time with questions that can’t be answered by a room full of confused women, let’s debunk some ambiguous situations with the male species so we can figure out where he’s placed on us on his relationship totem pole.
When I graduated high school in 2009, I had planned to go to the University of Iowa, a school that was around 4 hours away from my hometown of Omaha, Nebraska. It was never my intention to meet a boy I wanted to date right before leaving for college, but as it turns out that's exactly what happened.
Dating these days is full of rule-bending as gender roles continue to bend themselves. But some of the old guard still stands, and we ladies often feel the pressure to be “ladies.” This week, why it’s in your best interest to be true to who you are and what you want, regardless of how it might make him feel.