Well boys and girls, we’ve come to the fourth and final installment of “What the hell did I get myself into?”: Online Dating Edition. It’s been a whirlwind of a month, and I am sad to say (spoiler alert) that I did not find a boyfriend. Cue the tears, cue Adele, and cue me shoveling Ben and Jerry’s down my throat. I’m okay though really. No tears for this girl. I might sound a little cocky when I say this, but the reason I didn’t find a boyfriend wasn’t because I couldn’t get a guy to look in my general direction. I got several messages from men throughout the day, everyday for four weeks. I had many guys interested in “me”, and I put “me” in quotation marks because I’m not sure how many of the guys really wanted to get to know me or just have sex with me (and I guess I’ll never know!). The reason why I didn’t come out of this challenge with the desired end result is because I realized that I don’t want a boyfriend.

I repeat: I do not want a boyfriend. Read More »

Last week, I realized that I’ve basically (and pathetically) dabbled in online dating since I had access to a laptop. You guys remember Tagged? In middle school, I talked to a high school football player for precisely one week. I was so proud of myself – I even printed out his picture to show to my friends! Eventually, he stopped answering my calls and sent a culminating email calling the whole thing off. At least they learn early, right?

In the ninth grade, I had a Myspace fauxlationship with another guy. We exchanged messages for a good two months…can you believe that I actually considered him my boyfriend?! I was number two on his Top 8…a very big deal, indeed. And now as a college junior, every single date I’ve been on – all two of them – were provided by the net.

I really should close my damn laptop and give this stuff a rest, but I have two good reasons that stop me from shutting down. Dating online is so much easier for me because I’m chronically shy. I’d probably drink unfiltered Hudson River water before approaching a guy in class or at the bar. I’m just way too afraid of rejection. In online dating I’ve learned that there’s still plenty of rejection, but it’s much easier to face in pixels than in person. Read More »

Well loyal readers, it’s time for another installment of “What the Hell Did I Get Myself Into By Agreeing to Try Online Dating?”, and I hope you’re all as stoked as I am! It’s been a whirlwind of a week. I’ve been super busy with school (Trimesters were created by the devil. I’m not done until the second week of June!), so I haven’t been living up to my full OK Cupid potential. I still have the app on my phone, which does help a lot because I can receive messages from guys I’ve been talking to or seem interesting to get to know. If you ever consider online dating with Ok Cupid, I highly recommended getting the app if you have a smart phone. It really works wonders.

This past week, I’ve been getting the same old shtick from the guys on OK Cupid. Some are creepy, some are nice, and some are just not my type, but it is what it is. I stopped messaging guys I thought were cute/interesting/worthy of my time, because I am still really interested Mitch. Am I kind of defeating the whole purpose of this task? I’m supposed to be shopping online for a boyfriend right? I feel like I’ve been walking around the store, browsing all the stuff, trying some of it on, but I’m still holding onto that one really cute shirt I loved. (Just haven’t made it to the check out to purchase it…) Will I ever be ready to purchase the shirt? I don’t know. Read More »

I’ve heard this story way too many times: Two people meet online somehow. They exchange contact info, and they fall into a loop of talking to each other all day and night via texts, IMs, and/or phone calls. Maybe they end up meeting in real life, but the vast majority of their communication is virtual. They feel like they’ve really scratched the surface and gotten to know each other on a profound level. Naturally, there’s probably some sexting, maybe even declarations of love. There’s definitely some semblance of a bond there. Then, one person reveals they weren’t nearly as invested as they appeared to be. They have a significant other or they suddenly start becoming a vulgar Twitter flirt, or they just decide to fall off the face of the earth. And then the other person is left hurt, confused and disappointed. Read More »

So another week has gone by since I started this journey into the world of online dating, and I don’t even know where to begin. There are so many things I want to touch upon and so little time! For this post, I decided to break it down by questions I’ve come across while toying around with the OK Cupid site and meeting (yup, I said meeting) men from this site.  There have been some funny (and not so funny) bumps in the road since I started my new online life, but I’ve realized a lot of things too. Like how it’s almost impossible to really judge someone’s personality (or looks for that matter!) from an online dating profile or how you’re going to get inquiries from a lot of men that aren’t your type and this will lead you to get very discouraged and frustrated.

I’m still not 100% sold on the concept of online dating, but I’m getting more and more used to it as the days go on. I even downloaded the OK Cupid iPhone app, which is pretty useful and fun. I get notifications anytime I get a message from someone or when someone who is a good match for me is “checking out my profile”. It’s also super easy to use, and I’ve found myself browsing through some men when I’m bored in class. Read More »

I’m sure if I looked up the top five mistakes you could make on a first date, the following things would be on the list: ditching your studying to go out on said date, allowing the guy to handle your drink without keeping a watchful eye on it, riding in an unknown man’s car, going to his house in the middle of nowhere and letting him blow shotgun kisses into your previously unkissed mouth.

So much wrong in one night.

After we got into the car, I felt relaxed. I thanked my Carrie Bradshaw guardian angel up above for sending me a nice, polite, attractive, well-dressed, date-paying, college educated, law school-pursuing, job-having and car-owning young man. He was totally second date worthy, I thought. Read More »

I have been single for almost two years. It’s been good. It’s been bad. It’s been lonely. It’s been fun as hell. Every single day, I gather a different opinion on the subject. Sometimes there is nothing I love more than going out with my other single girlfriends on a Saturday night and talking to different guys. No strings. No one to answer to. No games. No jealousy. No worries! I am I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T!

And then there are the nights when I’m not so happy. My bed seems bigger than usual, and for some reason all I want to do is cuddle.  I want someone to go to the farmer’s market with me on Saturday mornings. I want someone to call when I find out I got promoted/demoted/too much foam in my latte/whatever. Someone who will always pick up the phone and deal with my bull. And for almost two years, I haven’t had that person. Read More »

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A girl that I know got an awesome, highly coveted summer position at a magazine – a magazine that I’ve always admired. Though I already have a really great internship secured, I still lamented my feelings to a friend over the phone. “What made her application stronger?” I wondered aloud. Then my friend asked me the unexpected…“Is she a really pretty girl? That’s probably why she got the position.”

I instantly saw red and felt like hurling a Lil’ Wayne-inspired string of expletives at her. Instead of doing that, I called my mom in tears. Why would a friend say something so careless and just plain mean? “Your friend wasn’t insulting you,” Momma Undateable explained. “It’s the truth. There are benefits to being attractive.” Read More »

Across the border in my home country of Canada, rates of STDs have rapidly been increasing since 2000. Syphilis cases have increased 10 times over, while chlamydia rates have increased 66 percent. Public-health experts are saying that this can partially be attributed to the popularity of online dating.

The problem is that people get to know each other in advance, so by the time they meet there are already increased levels of intimacy. Because of this felt intimacy, people are less likely to have a conversation about safe sex. Add this to the decrease in condom use among female college students, and it’s definitely something we should be talking about.

Public health agency statistics indicate that the more the HIV epidemic appears to become a thing of the past, the less people focus on a message of safe sex. There are, of course, other factors than just online dating, but the response should be the same. Communicate with your partners, practice safe sex, and get tested. Read More »