What’s Your “Number”? Who Cares!?
We as a society have these arbitrary notions of what an appropriate number of sex partners is, so the expectation is that anyone who thinks they fall outside of the standard deviation is probably going to lie. The trope goes that guys will exaggerate, ladies will omit, and all inexperienced people will pad their sex resume.
The Secret Tip for Having Mind-Blowing Sex! [Sexy Time]
I was scouring the web looking for inspiration for this week’s column, and after the billionth “How to Blow Your Man’s Mind” article, I reached the zenith of irritation. Not only are all of those articles redundant (the answer is always anal or BJs), heterosexist (not all ladies date guys, and lesbians do read mainstream media sites), but they’re so disempowering.

Farrah Abraham’s Oral Skills Were a Fail, So Let’s Talk About How to Really Get It Done [Sexy Time]
While there are guys out there who genuinely don’t care for oral, I think it’s a pretty safe assumption that most do. Luckily, giving enjoyable head to a guy is a fairly easy-ish endeavor.
Trojan’s New Line of Personal Lubricants Takes the Stigma Out of Lube
You might tell your best friend about the weird guy you hooked up with last weekend who had an extraordinarily veiny penis (graphic, strange, yet totally conversational), but would you tell her that you’re heading to the drugstore later to pick up some trusty lube (not graphic, not strange, yet totally embarrassing)?
Should You Tell Someone That They’re Bad in Bed? [Sexy Time]
I was brunching with some ladies the other day, and naturally the conversation turned to guys and sex. Unfortunately, some of the girls have been experiencing some really bad sexual juju.
Denying Him Sex Is DESTROYING His Self Esteem? Yeah, Okay.
Night after night, no matter how hard Mr. Mower tried to get Mrs. Mower to have sex with him, she shut him down. He even researched online about how doing housework can turn a woman on.
5 Ways To Cure Boredom While Performing Oral [Sexy Time]
I can only spend so much time alternating between making eye contact with my boyfriend and staring at his business before I start to get kind of bored. So I’ve come up with a few ways to subtly stymie any boredom that may crop up.

Around the Web

Having Sex in Public Was Kinda Disappointing [Sexy Time]
I’ve had sex in various un-private places and while none of them were especially bad, they definitely were great. I’ve gotten it on inside public places, outside, during the day, at night…so I think I’ve done it enough times to write it off as an overrated sex activity.
Some Guys Are Really Awful, But It’s Not Your Fault [Sexy Time]
In the wake of the Steubenville rape trial, there has been increased dialogue about the importance of consent. Unfortunately, the societal narrative around consent is so muddled, distorted, and harmful. There’s a ton of emphasis on the absence of no and not nearly enough about the presence of yes.
Why Do Guys Sleep With Girls They’re Not Attracted To? [Ask A Dude]
He insisted he still didn’t find her attractive, and wasn’t really looking to date her. When I asked him how he could possibly be interested in sex with her, he looked at me like I was crazy.
I Don’t Look Sexy on Camera and Sometimes I Feel Weird About It [Sexy Time]
Quite a long time ago (ie, 2011), I made a sex tape with my boyfriend. It was, without a doubt, one of the least sexiest pieces of film I’ve ever had the misfortune of laying my eyes on.
Tuffy Luv Tells Lil Sis to Behave
I lost the trust of my older brother. I told him I wouldn’t date his friends and then I dated his best friend behind his back. The problem is, too, that we had sex in his bed once.

Should I Apologize For Not Being A Sex Goddess? I’m Thinking No. [Sexy Time]
The other day, I found myself giving my boyfriend an apology because I didn’t want to have sex the night before. When he accepted it, I was slightly annoyed.